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Long on Promises – Short on Self-Commitment

Have you noticed that most people fall short when it comes to delivering on some of their promises? People tend to keep promises more frequently among close family members; less often do they fulfill promises made to friends and co-workers; least often to neighbors and acquaintances.

Is a promise the same as a commitment? Commitments are typically considered to carry an increased level of reliability; yet all too often, both promises and commitments have the same level of degraded delivery.

Taking this a step further, a contract between two people is considered as binding in terms of delivery, whether it is a business contract or a personal contract, such as a marriage contract. Some people believe that a contract represents the ultimate level of commitment; yet we discover that even contractual agreements are not always reliable and often fail to deliver on the contracted promise or commitment.

If promises, commitments and contracts are known to fail, what does work? What can we count on? What drives us personally to deliver on intent? Interestingly enough, it is self-commitment — a commitment you make to yourself. It is like saying, “Regardless of our mutual promises and commitments, I am committing to myself to do this or that.” Here is why self-commitment works:

  • Most people can rationalize or excuse their failure to deliver on a promise or commitment to others, typically blaming it on some unfortunate turn of events or blaming the other person for not holding up some aspect of the agreement that was supposedly intended even if not included in the commitment discussion (i.e., it was really your fault that I failed). The more you practice this slight-of-hand, the better you become at not fulfilling your promises and commitments to others — and the less reputable you become.
  • In contrast, when you commit to yourself, you have no one else to blame for your personal failure. In fact, a commitment to yourself supersedes any commitment made to others and regardless of how weak the other person’s intensions are at fulfilling their side of the bargain. For example, you may commit to another to achieve A, B and C, yet commit to yourself only to achieving A if the challenge becomes too great; which do you think is more likely to be achieved? Similarly, an athlete may commit to his coach and even to his team to invest the maximum effort toward achieving the objective; yet the consistent winners are those who make that non-retractable commitment to themselves.
  • When you commit to yourself, the terms are typically simple with a clear-cut deliverable that would be difficult to work around. An example might be, “I will commit to completing my college degree no matter how long it takes”. Or perhaps, “I commit to remaining in this relationship no matter how difficult it is to bear; yet I also commit to end the relationship if it becomes physically abusive”; in this case, a clear commitment with a clearly defined limitation; both are simple and important to the soul in terms of life lessons learned.
  • Most important of all, when you commit to yourself — a commitment to and mutual agreement with your soul — you are also making a commitment to that aspect of yourself which is God (or your personal divinity). Such a commitment involves and redirects all of your personal energy toward that inescapable commitment to the combined you, your soul and God. In so doing, you are including God’s energy in the equation, and the three of you will work persistently toward fulfilling your unwavering commitment.

Before you make a promise…before you commit to another…examine your intent at the level of your heart and the level of your soul. Is this promise, this commitment, truly a part of your life plan? And what are the boundaries, limitations and duration of that commitment? Can you make the exact same commitment to yourself regardless of the degree of sincerity, reliability or commitment of the other person? Can you accept that any failure to achieve the commitment you made to yourself is your failure? Are you ready to share this discussion with your partner so that you both understand the true root, language, limitations and duration of the commitment? Are you really ready to infuse your relationship with this level of sincerity? If you cannot do this, if both of you cannot make the same level of commitment to yourselves and to each other, then your contract is sown with the seeds of failure.

Self-commitment — nothing offers a greater certainty of delivering success. Take the time to learn this critical life skill. Commit to including self-commitment in every significant relationship and challenge in your life.

Perhaps this point is best driven home through the video “No Worries” by Nick Vujicic (video 6 on The Soul Channel VFR page) — enjoy.

Life Plan

From a soul perspective, what is a ‘life plan’?

A life plan provides structure, purpose and objectives to the physical life journey. Imagine if everyone came to the planet with no sense of purpose at all; life would be much more difficult than it already is for most people, and much of the opportunity to focus on specific learning opportunities would be lost or wasted. Life would be entirely about reaction with very little independent proactive thinking. Read More…

The River of Life

What is the ‘river of life’? This concept refers to your life plan and the path it follows throughout your physical life journey. The headwaters or beginning of your river are aligned with your time of conception, picking up speed, depth and breadth as your life progresses. Yet the general form, shape, length and key points along the way were defined back in the planning stages of your life — planned by your soul and your helpful guides during your ‘life-before-life’.

Why is this an important analogy? Once life begins — immediately following conception — we have a rather limited impact on the river of life, just as we have a fairly limited impact on our physical life plan. Certainly the choices we make in life are not all pre-determined, but the big ones are. Not every career or business decision is pre-planned, but all the important ones are, both the decisions that have a substantial impact on us personally and those that have a significant impact on others. Not all the people we meet are included in our life plans, but the significant relationships are, including all the long-term good and bad relationships.  Read More…

Q&A — Atonement and Karma, 09/19/2011

[From time to time I receive questions through email or blog comments about spiritual and soul therapy issues. I know in my heart that these delightful inquiries from a few kind people actually respond to similar questions by many participants in The Soul Channel. So I have decided to share portions of the questions and responses without identifying the source of the inquiry.]


How does the process of experiential learning as part of multiple lives fit in with God and the Christian concept of atonement?

Edited Response:

The concept of atonement (making amends for misdeeds and wrong-doing) is a cornerstone of many religions, especially Christianity. For Hinduism and Buddhism, the concept is “bad karma”, recognizing that there are both bad and good deeds in physical life (bad and good karma); one is rewarded or punished in one life for the deeds in a previous life. How you believe atonement occurs is one of the important tenets of your personal faith; thus any discussion on the matter creates the possibility of shaking one’s faith; I applaud your courage, and I will do my best not to crack that foundation.

We come into this world to experience that which we cannot experience in the total love environment of the soul side, and we make this journey with the blessing and the unconditional love of God, who has given us free will. In this world with billions of people, some are perceived as truly evil, while others are perceived as true humanitarians and philanthropists; most fall somewhere in the middle of these extremes; the diversity of the extremes of human nature offers an infinite number of combinations of possible interactions, both positive and negative. In planning our lives, we obtain assistance from experienced souls who will not be in physical form at the same time we are; and we make agreements and commitments with other souls for various relationships and interactions, again including actions which might be perceived as good or bad from different individual perspectives. These concepts lead to the following considerations: Read More…

Q&A — Soul Groups, 9/13/2011

[From time to time I receive questions through email or blog comments about spiritual and soul therapy issues. I know in my heart that these delightful inquiries from a few kind people actually respond to similar questions by many participants in The Soul Channel. So I have decided to share portions of the responses without identifying the source of the inquiry.]


I read in one of your posts that souls tend to come to the Earth in groups to solve specific tasks. I started asking myself what are the tasks for my parent-family relationships.

Edited Response:

The simplest concept of a soul group is a group that is seeking to understand familial relationships. For example, assume that we are looking at your relationship with your mother: in this life, you are the daughter; in a previous life, you were her father or mother; in the next you may negotiate to be her brother or a cousin. Given the infinite possibilities of the soul, examining any question from multiple family-member perspectives provides substantially greater insights on the relationships and the various parent-adult-child relationships. Both soul groups and individual souls seek the broadest experiential perspective when the opportunities arise. Read More…

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